A couple of days ago, I was having a conversation with Kira about guys. It was one of those conversations when dating frustrations were flaring up. One of us made that typical statement about not understanding men. The other responded with the just as typical, “Men are so confusing.” Then she added, “Except Papa.” Ah my dad. A prince among men. Of course, I’m biased but I think he very well may be the most incredible man I know. And yet, when I think about dating and men, do I want a man like my daddy?

I heard on the radio the other day that only 18% of women say they want to find a man like their dads. An interesting statistic I thought and it gave me cause to think about it even more. When I think about women wanting to be a man like daddy, my mind automatically goes to personality traits and character. Yet, in doing some research, I found that apparently it’s more about a man physically resembling dad. Does anyone else find that strange and creepy?

My dad is a wonderful man. He’s kind and caring. He’s honest and true. Patient and strong. When I think about the kind of man I want to spend my life with, I realize that those are qualities that I want in a partner. Yet, my dad lets my mom run the show. Now I realize that with her there’s not a lot of choice in that. It’s the path of least resistance and all, but damn I’ll swear there are times when he speaks, that he is simply echoing her thoughts.

And so, that being said, there are some things about him that I would love in a partner; others that I wouldn’t. And I damn sure don’t want someone who physically resembles him. Don’t get me wrong, he’s a damn good looking man. It’s not that at all. It’s just, well, the thought of having sex with a man who looks like my dad kind of creeps me out.

Yet the research showed that women who had a good father-daughter relationship, chose men who resembled their fathers physically. Am I the only who finds this disturbing?