I came across a thread in the POF forums written by a dude who grew up the poor lil chubby guy none of the girls wanted anything to do with. Now that he has lost weight and gotten his career on track, women are flocking like flies to shit. He is feeling resentful and bitter and feels as if he will eventually alienate everyone he comes in contact with due to his resentment.
I feel for the dude. Lots of people, men & women, are looking only for the superficial. Lots. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t still those of us out there who, while understanding physical attraction and chemistry, are trying to find the man/woman underneath.
And yet, some Bozo writes this:
It’s called “The MR. BIG SYNDROME”…………..And you need to know that your lack of respect for them is NOT exactly UNWARRANTED….. For the ‘disease’ is running rampant amongst the women you know, and those just like them…. Every one of them thinks they are entitled to no less than a “Mr. Big”…… Or haven’t you noticed all the groups of gals all lined up at the movie theatre for their big SATC parties???
Listen dude…. It’s not going to matter how well you’re dressed…..or how thin you are now….or how much success you’re having….because what you need to know is: They are NOT concerned with the “YOU” inside….only the MR. BIG that is in their poisoned little minds….and the second you either gain some of that weight back….or loose a little money….or become MR. AVERAGE……they will be gone….because they WANTED MR. BIG….Because nothing LESS than Mr. Big will do, regardless of if they’ve earned it or not….they’re ENTITLED…and so it is written in the Gospel according to Carrie!!!
So I wouldn’t have RESENTMENT per se…… but I certainly wouldn’t waste one more second on them either. Just take some of that money you’re earning now, and buy a ‘lady’ from time to time……you’ll have a good time…and in the end…it will be CHEAPER in the long run. Don’t forget that for every six to eight hours of laying next to them in some peaceful slumber ’spooning’ come sixteen hours of sunlight when they’ve actually woken up…………
you do the math……..
All I have to say is “Bitter much?” Lord God, we all know that there are shallow people out there. There are indeed women looking only for Big and men looking for their eye candy, trophy piece. But his answer is just to write every woman out there off and buy a hooker from time to time? Really?
It just doesn’t give the rest of us much credit, does it? Those of us who have been dating long enough to know that it really is about so much more. Because really I’m not looking for Big. You think I want to hang around for 10 years while Big & I struggle to make a relationship that works for both of us? Oh hell no!
I mean sure, Carrie & Big live happily ever after in the end, or at least we think they do, but personally that’s a heapin’ load of BS I don’t want to have to go through to get to the pot o’ gold on the other side.
Thoughts?
