Many of you know that I prefer to date younger men. In an ageless dating forum I belong to it was once said that Dr. Phil is no friend to older women dating younger men. Friday’s “Cougar Craze” seems to contradict that.
I’ve been asked many times why it is that I prefer to date younger men. One of Dr. Phil’s guests, Kat, explained it very well.
“It’s not necessarily about age. It’s about energy. If somebody my age came along and they were fun, and they were energetic, I would date them.”
Exactly! I couldn’t have said it better myself.
One guy I met online suggested my lack of success in relationships is due to the fact that I date younger men. The truth of the matter is that, until my last divorce, all of my relationships were with men my age or older. The last husband was 7 years older in fact.
It was after my divorce that I started gaining attention from younger men. At first I was taken aback and definitely pleasantly surprised. I’d never really considered dating younger men before.
I soon discovered that it comes with many perks not the least of which is the sexual aspect. However, it also comes with its downsides not the least of which is the sexual aspect. It’s definitely a double sided coin.
Let me explain. First, the upside. Sex with younger men is the hottest on the planet. Biologically, it only makes sense. Men peak younger than women do, so sexually speaking, older women and younger men are very sexually suited. Younger men love the experience an older woman brings to the table. They love that the women have no inhibitions and are not afraid to tell them what they like.
Unfortunately, this is what also causes the downside. Younger men who are only out to bag a cougar. The very term cougar is offensive to me because it implies that I am out chasing younger men just to get them in the sack. It implies that they are victims when, many times, the reverse is true. I’ve come across more men than I can even tell you who think that just because I’m an older woman dating younger men, I’m only looking for sex. Let me just assure you I’m not.
I’m looking for a relationship, a companion, a life partner. And I simply prefer he be younger.
Dr. Phil said this:
“I don’t think that chronological age is necessarily a deal-breaker at all between two people, depending on their mindset, depending on why you’re doing it, what you want and where you think it’s going.”
I’ve always said that age is simply a number. That all is means that one of you just happened to have been born before the other. Period. It’s not important.
What does matter is the relationship, how the two of you relate to and interact with each other.
Here are the results from the Dr. Phil poll.
Do you think it’s OK for older women to date younger men?
82% 2678 Yes
14% 464 No
4% 157 I’m Not Sure
Total 3299
What do you think?
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